I Have Everything I Want, I Can’t Ask For More From Life …

We have to admit it, sometimes we let the string of the kite of our dreams go as far as possible and we take them to the top, to the stars. However, most of the time the most authentic happiness blooms a little lower, in the garden of a simple life, where it is enough to have those we love the most close : our partner and our children.

Albert Einstein said with great success that there is a motive force more powerful than steam, much more than electricity or atomic energy: it is our will. It is she who day by day has prompted us to fight for what is meaningful to us, for those little things that deserve to be attended to and cared for because they bring us real satisfaction.

Assuming this idea, that of caring for and respecting what we love is essential to carry out a satisfactory and happy upbringing. In fact, a mistake that many moms and dads make is to always dream of that ideal of perfection where what is achieved in the long term is to collect endless frustrations. And what is worse, neglecting the real needs.

We do not need a dream life, an ideal house, that our children go to the best of schools, that they assume multiple competencies as soon as possible, that they be the tallest or the most handsome …  Nor do we need to be the reflection of a family for others perfect, that one that can with everything and that reaches any objective that is proposed.

Let’s face it as soon as possible: there are no perfect families, no perfect couples, and even fewer perfect children. There are real people who are very clear about their true priorities, those that are based on a single nutrient: happiness.

I dream that in this life my child will become what he wants

Dreaming is good, because it is not only free but also helps us to focus on certain objectives to fight for them, to make them come true. However, when we are family, when you form a good team with your partner, something that is undoubtedly enriching is building common dreams, where our children are often the main protagonists.

• Now, as parents, something we should never fall into is planning in advance what our own children’s lives should be like. It is not appropriate to focus on children frustrated desires that we ourselves had. Let them be the ones to project their own future.

Likewise, something that we can understand through the reading “Raising our children while we grow with them” by Naomi Aldort is that in that small team that we make up at home, if there is something that should always prevail, it is the sense of freedom. . 

Freedom understood as a principle of personal fulfillment, as an opportunity to develop ourselves, to continue growing as people, assuming new dreams and new challenges where we always feel supported by our own.

And suddenly I realize that I have everything I want

And suddenly, almost overnight, you realize that you no longer want anything else. The only thing you want is that nothing changes, that the seconds follow each other with the same harmony, happiness and balance.

You may not have everything you dreamed of in the past: the best job in the world, time to enjoy your free time whenever you want, or several zeros in your checking account.

However … how important is it now? Every day you leave your cheek on the pillow knowing that your baby grows happy, healthy and precious. Every morning you have breakfast with your partner while you look at each other in complicity, because no words are needed to say that you are well and that you do not ask of life for anything more than that, your harmony … To be the best team in the world.

If life is two days and one is cloudy, I will teach my child to dance in the rain

In your family life there will be good days and bad days. Challenges will appear, challenges that at first glance will seem unattainable. However, and despite all these difficulties, economic ups and downs, and personal crises, it will continue to be the life you like for a very simple reason: it is inhabited by the people you love the most.

• Also, it is very possible that as your children get older they will become a little more demanding. They will want things, they will demand rights, freedoms from you and they will even compare themselves with their classmates to discover that perhaps they do not have the same clothes, the same toys or the same lifestyle as other families.
• That will undoubtedly be a key moment. That will be the moment in which we must instill in them the value of that happiness that starts from simplicity. There where true well-being will never arise from the simple fact of accumulating things, having objects, brand clothes or cutting-edge technology.

True well-being stems from self-esteem, an afternoon of games in the park, a trip to the beach with the family, a bike trip with dad, adopting a pet, making new and good friends, learning to to draw with mom, to perceive how day by day one is older, safer, freer, more competent …

It is worth teaching our children that sometimes life is not perfect, it is not the clear example of what the story books tell us, but still, it can be wonderful.